Just how long should you wait!

We are now in that time of the year where you wake up at 6am
in the morning, you pull up your bedroom curtain and the rays
of the sun hit your face; you know that time of the year where
mornings come quicker and the night too; it is 6pm and the moon
is already informing you to retire from the days work.

This morning I heard something interesting on the radio, they
were talking about how long one should one be in a dating
relationship before getting to the real thing; like
getting serious and all that. One thing that got me though,
was a woman who said she would need at-least 5 years or more
to be able to learn about all the shit about this guy;
Now that is shit! wtf!! 5 years? I mean are you going through
high or elementary school!!

As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the
courtship length prior to marriage. But study shows that
happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months
before getting married; that is 2 years plus we have to
remember that what marriage means on a societal level
is also changing.

I believe that individuals have their own certain and various
procedures or rituals better yet timetables they follow
according to the circumstances, you know, like how some
women have a ritual that they will only give the guy sexual
pleasure after the 5th date!

Most of the times relationships take long to get into the
commitment level because of the told-stories from the
heartbroken souls airing out their despair and bitterness.
But hey It’s important to remember, however, that nobody
escapes matters of the heart completely unscathed.

“Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player
or a liar or a loser. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a
good husband and father one day. All it means is that when he shows
up on the first date with you and sees how attractive you are,
he’s not thinking about the long-term future,
he’s thinking about the short-term future: “How am I going to charm her?
How am I going to make her like me? How am I going to give her an
extra drink so I can get her back to my place?”
This is true because men become focused on the here and now,
trying to make the most of the present moment.

A lady will try to see through you..
A lady will try to see through you..

But women on the other hand aren’t even focused on the date itself,
they are usually trying to see through you and predict the future
“What’s wrong with this guy? Where is this headed?
Is he financially stable? Does he believe in marriage?
Is he a player? Does he respect women? Does he want children?
He better not hurt me. I don’t want to waste my time.”
This sever explains almost all of the friction in dating
and once you understand it, you can make a permanent adjustment.

A little thought intended for the ladies out there;
The guy who’s been casually seeing you for over two months,
where he occasionally texts you, occasionally sees you is simply
not putting in the requisite effort to win you over. In the long run,
he’s a waste of time because he’s already showing you the kind of
relationship he wants: low-stakes, low rewards, no commitment.
Guys who don’t escalate their efforts after about two months
are probably a waste of your time and if you still need more time
than that to get exclusive, like the lady who talked about
5 years!! then its high time you get your shit together.

Gracias mis lectores.



It has been long since i had one of Shaggy’s finest, and i woke up this morning to his tune, Repent; the lyrics are nice and well have some simple but strong message. So i decided to share with you and if you go ahead to download it, better that way.. Enjoy!

[Verse 1:]
Check the state of the world we live in can’t you see it’s a crying shame                    (Forgive them)
Leadership fails before it begins motivated by personal games (Forgive them)
Tempers flare and patience ware ten finger pointing but who is to blame
Repent, repent, repent, repent


Cause where two steps away from a real disaster
Think there a boss but a who are the master
Life set a pace every thing much faster
Need to slow down and pray (Forgive them)
Two steps away from a real disaster
Think there a boss but a who are the master
Life set a pace every thing much faster
Need to slow down and pray (Forgive them)

[Verse 2:]

Fighting for what they did not create crying peace while inflicting pain            (Forgive them)
Man deciding another man’s fate claiming power in their God’s name (Forgive them)
Words of love but their actions speak hate seems like mankind has gone insane
Repent, repent, repent, repent

[Bridge: Shaggy (Background Singers)]

(They don’t know) If they stick to the spot there be nothing else left to defend
(They don’t know) Instead of finding a cure we should look for the means to prevent
(They don’t know) We can talk to the lord ain’t no need for a special event
Repent, repent, repent, repent

See that last sentence before “Repent, repent, repent, repent”, it got me thinking; Most of us wait until we are to a breaking point before we consider asking God for help, well..am here to tell you that even if things are going as smooth as they can be, you can still ask God to make them even, for lack of a better word – smoother.

God bless you.

The Secret Chamber!

Okay… Today i must do it, i must write something for my readers!!
After approximately 33 minutes and 33 seconds my laptop keyboard starts
feeling the strokes of my fingers, after the long discourse  in my head.
After all this, am starting to question whether writing is really my thing,
you know.. like thing, am wondering whether some other writers out there
go through the same quandary  as i do, but hey!! Subsequently,
the words popping out of my monitor really show progress. Just after the

first comma, then things, mindboggling things, things that weren’t there

before, you know, like suddenly you have cracked a secret chamber. There i said it!!

The Secret Chamber.

The secret Chamber
The secret Chamber..

I have always questioned my ability to motivate, especially my mates,
i know we have been called many names but for lack of a better word; stubborn,

yes we are..Back to the Secret Chamber; every being out there who has had the

urge to write,you read a certain piece of literature and you feel you can create

something that will please and actually enthuse someone out there just like this

piece you have just read..then trust me, your Secret Chamber is still locked and

needs just a little touch and push.

The Secret Chamber being secret, doesn’t mean its magical; no no no, probably you
thought as you read this that things will magically work out for you,
that is a wrong concept, trust me it is an adventure series  before you get to this chamber.
Every piece of literature that you read, isn’t the first piece
written by that author, trust me, it started out simply not that good.

This Secret Chamber is a little rusty at the start, and at first you will not be pleased
with your work, but hey; this is because you will be comparing your work with the
superb article you read, not knowing that it might have been say the 100th article

written by that author. They say ‘Practice makes Perfect’ this is one of the sayings

which requires no interpretation at all.

Therefore the Secret Chamber is rusty at the beginning, but as you explore all the
magic in there, it will start to sparkle, after the sparkles magic.
Haven’t you ever gazed upon a piece of literature and your get the ‘mouth drop’,

oh yeah!! you have. Key to the magic is to write, write and well,

write and the sparkles is to read, and read a lot.

My Secret Chamber is a bit still rusty, but hey, am challenging myself to stimulate
it with a test every after two weeks because i need magic so that my
nice readers out there will be pleased and well; entertained. Gracias mis lectores.