Just how long should you wait!

We are now in that time of the year where you wake up at 6am
in the morning, you pull up your bedroom curtain and the rays
of the sun hit your face; you know that time of the year where
mornings come quicker and the night too; it is 6pm and the moon
is already informing you to retire from the days work.

This morning I heard something interesting on the radio, they
were talking about how long one should one be in a dating
relationship before getting to the real thing; like
getting serious and all that. One thing that got me though,
was a woman who said she would need at-least 5 years or more
to be able to learn about all the shit about this guy;
Now that is shit! wtf!! 5 years? I mean are you going through
high or elementary school!!

As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the
courtship length prior to marriage. But study shows that
happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months
before getting married; that is 2 years plus we have to
remember that what marriage means on a societal level
is also changing.

I believe that individuals have their own certain and various
procedures or rituals better yet timetables they follow
according to the circumstances, you know, like how some
women have a ritual that they will only give the guy sexual
pleasure after the 5th date!

Most of the times relationships take long to get into the
commitment level because of the told-stories from the
heartbroken souls airing out their despair and bitterness.
But hey It’s important to remember, however, that nobody
escapes matters of the heart completely unscathed.

“Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player
or a liar or a loser. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a
good husband and father one day. All it means is that when he shows
up on the first date with you and sees how attractive you are,
he’s not thinking about the long-term future,
he’s thinking about the short-term future: “How am I going to charm her?
How am I going to make her like me? How am I going to give her an
extra drink so I can get her back to my place?”
This is true because men become focused on the here and now,
trying to make the most of the present moment.

A lady will try to see through you..
A lady will try to see through you..

But women on the other hand aren’t even focused on the date itself,
they are usually trying to see through you and predict the future
“What’s wrong with this guy? Where is this headed?
Is he financially stable? Does he believe in marriage?
Is he a player? Does he respect women? Does he want children?
He better not hurt me. I don’t want to waste my time.”
This sever explains almost all of the friction in dating
and once you understand it, you can make a permanent adjustment.

A little thought intended for the ladies out there;
The guy who’s been casually seeing you for over two months,
where he occasionally texts you, occasionally sees you is simply
not putting in the requisite effort to win you over. In the long run,
he’s a waste of time because he’s already showing you the kind of
relationship he wants: low-stakes, low rewards, no commitment.
Guys who don’t escalate their efforts after about two months
are probably a waste of your time and if you still need more time
than that to get exclusive, like the lady who talked about
5 years!! then its high time you get your shit together.

Gracias mis lectores.

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Politics isn’t a dirty game after all

Most of the times things are not as they seem, …scratch that.. nothing is
ever as it seems. Right from the people close to you, the very people you call
your own, the same people you would think to vouch for you, oh no, these are
the exact same people that will shove a spade right in your back when you
turn around. If your next-of-kin can do this, what about a stranger.

It is the festive nomination season, am using the ‘festive‘ word because
we know the nominations customarily come with a lot of ‘goodies’ and yes; people
really enjoy themselves with these goodies, but they don’t last forever you know.

Let me get to the crux now, they usually say ‘politics is a dirty game‘,
am not sure whether this qualifies the statement to be a saying, a proverb
or a short story; but this is what i think.

50% of the politics game isn’t played by the politicians but rather the people
who vote these people into those tuscan leather chairs. It is always the same
story, like an annoying neighbor you can’t just get rid of; but then we always
‘forget nothing and remember nothing’.

A little hand-off, a few thousand notes into the people’s pockets is abundant
to activate the candor gene to think that things won’t be the same as last time.
A man in our zone recently organized a feast just before the
voting procedure – the primaries, after the feasting they went to the
voting station; after a few hours, they were at odds that the votes had been
stolen and you still think why wonders never cease to amaze me.

And they usually make the same old stupid jokes but never the less people still find them amusing, well; I just find them irksome.

They usually look that pathetic and perplexed to me..
They usually look that pathetic and perplexed to me..

Politics is not a dirty game, at least not to the people who hold the cards.
It is more like poker, you should know when to hold and when to fold.
We should know when to play our cards right, know when to keep someone in the
system and when not to keep them in; we have this deck of cards (politicians),
we have to know when to pick a card and when not to hold.

Let me share with you I trick that I think can work for us, we can be the masters
of this game. Simply expounded; when someone new gets to the leather chair,
they always want to make a difference, truth is that they want to do something
that will earn them votes next time. So they want to be better than their
predecessor; and that is what we can exploit, we can decide to vote someone
new into that chair each time so that we keep getting new better results each  instead of keeping someone there for a decade and they keep promising the same thing as they did hitherto – like I said, the same old story, so what are you really
willing to do for our future to become rehabilitated in the vast circles of life.

Gracias les mitores

Repent

It has been long since i had one of Shaggy’s finest, and i woke up this morning to his tune, Repent; the lyrics are nice and well have some simple but strong message. So i decided to share with you and if you go ahead to download it, better that way.. Enjoy!

[Verse 1:]
Check the state of the world we live in can’t you see it’s a crying shame                    (Forgive them)
Leadership fails before it begins motivated by personal games (Forgive them)
Tempers flare and patience ware ten finger pointing but who is to blame
Repent, repent, repent, repent

[Chorus:]

Cause where two steps away from a real disaster
Think there a boss but a who are the master
Life set a pace every thing much faster
Need to slow down and pray (Forgive them)
Two steps away from a real disaster
Think there a boss but a who are the master
Life set a pace every thing much faster
Need to slow down and pray (Forgive them)

[Verse 2:]

Fighting for what they did not create crying peace while inflicting pain            (Forgive them)
Man deciding another man’s fate claiming power in their God’s name (Forgive them)
Words of love but their actions speak hate seems like mankind has gone insane
Repent, repent, repent, repent

[Bridge: Shaggy (Background Singers)]

(They don’t know) If they stick to the spot there be nothing else left to defend
(They don’t know) Instead of finding a cure we should look for the means to prevent
(They don’t know) We can talk to the lord ain’t no need for a special event
Repent, repent, repent, repent

See that last sentence before “Repent, repent, repent, repent”, it got me thinking; Most of us wait until we are to a breaking point before we consider asking God for help, well..am here to tell you that even if things are going as smooth as they can be, you can still ask God to make them even, for lack of a better word – smoother.

God bless you.